Showing posts with label family court corruption. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family court corruption. Show all posts

30.8.13

Judicial Abuse

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Judicial Abuse [from web archive]

Introduction
Judicial abuse occurs when the effects of law itself are damaging to the person access to justice. In the most severe forms, Judicial abuse often occurs involving the most vulnerable members of our world: Children. For some time, judicial abuse has occurred across systems and mostly against mothers and children. Considering that it was not that long ago that both women and children were seen and not heard, just as things were improving it seemed as though humanity was finally valuing each and every precious human life. Out in the public, such things would and do cause enough outrage for a sense of "natural justice". Away from the public eye, these human rights atrocities occur almost unseen and unheard like a thief in the night.
Secrecy
There are laws that prevent survivors from speaking out about their experiences. Whilst it is "for the children", children are not allowed to speak about the proceedings either. The media have written too few articles on the family court. To bring the case to the media, participants must seek permission from the court itself or face imprisonment. Controversially, fathers rights groups were allowed to heavily voice their stories of "no contact", "falsely accused of child abuse and domestic violence" and few were allowed to challenge that except in utilizing generalist terms and evidence based research. We are aware that most of these stories are not the case at all but are withheld by law to bring the public the truth.
Family Court
In the process of seeking more time with children and promoting what appears to be the most noble cause, has entrenched the rights of mothers and children in their ability to seek safety from violence. Heads have been quoted in the media for stating that "family violence is our core business". The propaganda that is spread about the voices of children and their access to justice promotes the profitability in manufacturing child abuse and domestic violence. They can do something about it, but it is not within their best economical advantage to do so. This will continue until something is done

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7.6.11

Kansas Blue Ribbon Commission - Testimony of Claudine Dombrowski, June 6th, 2011-Washburn University - Robinson Courtroom. Topeka, Kansas

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UPDATE June 16, 2011: Documents submitted to the Blue Ribbon Commission suggesting possible improvements in the Kansas Court system are not open records (this is so wrong) See Kansas Watch Dog for article. http://kansas.watchdog.org/7016/suggestions-about-court-improvements-are-not-open-records/

This was the last of the public meetings in Topeka.  However, Kansans can always submit comments via electronically to the Commission at: KSCourtStudyBRC@kscourts.org

The Commission will put together its investigative report  from the public meetings which is scheduled to be submitted in July 2011. You can follow along the process of the Blue Ribbon Commission through their website.
The Monday June 6, 2011 evening panel was held at Washburn University, Robinson Courtroom. The three Commission Panel Consisted of: Chair: Reggie Robinson, Mike Padilla and Senator John Vratil. Lisa Wilson of the Office of judicial Administration took the meeting minutes.
One important and positive topic of discussion of the use of technology was very easily made by a Court reporter- video/audio specialist.  It is inexpensive to implement at every level of the judiciary, it is cost effective, secure, factual, ensures transparency of court proceedings, pro se litigants having access to their court files and documents electronically would be an incredible asset – again at all levels. As we all know- technology rules the world. it is time for that technology to be used to ‘access justice’ at every level in our Kansas Judiciary.
I sincerely thank the commission for their appeared genuine sincerity in changing the current system, to one that works. The panel, was receptive, respectful, patient and very kind. Further comments were just as sincere. In all the years I have done public speaking or testimonies, I have never felt so ‘at ease’ as I did with the audience and the panel. For myself, this gives me hope that lady Justice can and will rise out of the ashes of the broken unjust system. it will entail a complete overhaul – but it can be done.
Testimony of Claudine Dombrowski
Listen to  Claudine Dombrowski
Kansas Blue Ribbon Commission Panel
June 6th, 2011 Washburn University, Robinson Courtroom
Testimony by Claudine Dombrowski
 

Summary: Introduction, Personal and Professional Experiences and Solutions
Dear Panel Members, my name is Claudine Dombrowski,
I am a Survivor /Advocate and Activist for Domestic Violence Victims and their Children. I am on the Kansas Secretary of State’s, Address Confidentiality Program - Safe At Home for Victims of Domestic Violence. I bring to this panel both Criminal and Family Court Failures.
I have been beaten with crowbars, thrown out of moving vehicles, have had both wrists and several ribs broken, thrown through plate glass windows, tied up, raped and sodomized then left in a crawl space for several days. Just to name a few of the Criminal Assaults-by an already 8 (Eight) time criminally convicted perpetrator to include but not limited to: (Battery, Attempted Battery, Battery of a Law Enforcement Officer, Obstruction of Legal Process, Possession of Marijuana, Violation of Open Container law, Violation of Restraining Orders, Domestic Violence and Terroristic Death threats)

I am on 100% physical Disability related to the injuries.
See: http://www.thelizlibrary.org/outrage/
CLAUDINE DOMBROWSKI CASE, Shawnee County, Kansas.
Claudine lost custody of her baby daughter Rikki to Hal Richardson, the man who did this, thanks to Judge James P. Buchele, who refused to permit adequate testimony at trial, shortening it to benefit his docket, and also ordered Claudine to move back to Topeka to live near Richardson, for the sake of their "co-parenting." WHAT?! Richardson is a man with multiple criminal convictions for violent behavior (Battery, Attempted Battery, Battery of a Law Enforcement Officer, Obstruction of Legal Process, Possession of Marijuana and violation of Open Container law), a man who has beaten and raped Claudine multiple times before and after her divorce from him, a man who has threatened to kill her and her child.
Worse, Judge Buchele also ordered Claudine not to call the police any more without the permission of her case manager. When Judge James Buchele retired, Judge Richard D. Anderson affirmed Buchele's previous orders, including the illegal prohibition on Claudine's being able to call the police.
But don't blame the judges alone. Stupidity rarely works its evil in a vacuum. A truly egregious outrage requires that could-be good men do nothing. Guardian ad litem Scott McKenzie deserves a substantial portion of the credit for this travesty. I ask, how in hell can this happen in the United States of America? For more information, also see : www.kansas.net/~freepress/7-12-01-8.html
I want to share a few key points of information that caused the complete ‘Failure of Justice’ for myself and for my daughter, that can assist you to enable ‘Access to Justice’ for other’s who enter the Judiciary, not being the current state of the Courts, the lawyers and Mental Health so called experts known as Therapeutic Jurisprudence- a lucrative business that denies access to justice to society’s most vulnerable victims, battered mothers and their children and only for profit. It’s monetary, it’s all about the money and it can be prevented.
I have provided extensive links for further information than my short statement could possibly provide today. http://www.thelizlibrary.org/liz/child-custody-evaluations.html

In the few handouts that I have given out as well- I have already emailed the long version with links intact to the Blue Ribbon Commission KSCourtStudyBRC@kscourts.org
Briefly:
I am the lead Plaintiff at the Inter American Commission on Human Rights (IACHR) Known as “Dombrowski et el v US” which was filed on behalf of all battered mothers and their children Nationally for the Policy and Procedure’s of Family Courts routinely placing battered mothers children with the abusers and pedophiles. Abuse Continued via Judicial Abuse and Coercive Control that entraps women and their children and denying them their basic ‘human rights’ to be free from torture and abuse. www.stopfamilyviolence.org/pages/308
The Inter-American Commission on Human Rights was created in 1959 and is expressly authorized to examine allegations of human rights violations by members of the Organization of American States, which include the United States. Its charge is to promote the observance and the defense of human rights in the Americas.
The State of Kansas Law Enforcement and the Kansas Coalition Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault (KCSDV Press Statement here: (http://www.kcsdv.org/psmothers.html) are hard copy signors to the petition (http://www.scribd.com/doc/39685724/kcsdvhardcopy-iachr).
The petition can be viewed in its entirety on the Stop Family Violence web site. www.stopfamilyviolence.org/pages/308 Court’s Order and Sanction Abuse, for perpetrators of family violence, by the Courts, through the courts while corruption, collusion and cronyism run rampant in “the best kept dirty little secrets of our family courts.”
I have been an outspoken advocate for victims of domestic violence since 1995. I have worked with experts and victims nationally and internationally, I have been an honored speaker for the past 6 years at the battered mother’s conference (www.BatteredMothersCustodyConfrence.org) in Albany New York. An annual Conference that brings advocates and professionals from around the Nation, including attorneys, Judges, Coalitions, Advocates and mother victims to address the issues of battered mothers loosing custody of their children to convicted batterers and pedophiles, KCSDV has attended the conference yearly since its inception.
I was ‘appointed’ by Attorney General Carla Stovall to serve on the ‘Violence Against Women and Children Committee’ in 1998 after I founded “Rikki’s Rights” – The Childs Best Interest in Domestic Violence Homes. (http://www.scribd.com/doc/38276495/1-20-1998-KS-AG-Letters-and-Appointment-to-Comittee-Claudine-Dom-Brow-Ski)
My case has been referenced in several scholarly articles, journals and research for up to date practices on access to justice for battered mothers and their children. I have done several media and news interviews (http://www.scribd.com/collections/2725388/Media) and participate in events by promoting the awareness of Domestic Violence and Child Custody in Kansas and Nationally since 1996 . http://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=claudine+dombrowski&aq=f
I have been to the Kansas Appellate Court twice 1997 and 1998 and the Kansas State Supreme Court twice 1999 and 2000 http://www.scribd.com/my_document_collections/2728794

The Family Court and Criminal Court Overlap
While the Perpetrator of my assault and battery was still on probation for his Domestic Violence conviction against myself—he filed for full custody of my daughter—and he got it.
The last time I held my daughter she was 6 years old – July 31, 2000. I told her she had to go be with her dad, and she cried “Noooo mommy…. please,” In her broken small voice, as she courageously fought back the huge tears that had welled up in her eyes. Rikki my baby girl was taken from her mother and given to her admitted and criminally convicted father, she was never again to have any meaningful contact with her mother.
Although we held hope and believed that one day justice would prevail, it did not. Justice has been denied. My daughter, now age 16 ½ - I have no idea where she is, I have not been allowed any access or contact with her, I have been denied information to her school, her medical records (contrary to FERPA Law) nor have I been allowed to have a single photo of her in this past 11+ years. I have never been alleged to be a threat or harm nor have I been charged or convicted of any crime-contrary to that of the well documented history of violence of her father to which the Courts have placed her in.
I have testified several times at the Kansas State Legislature, most recently the Kansas legislature’s Joint Committee on Children’s Issue’s an excellent article of these testimonies are published at Kansas Watch Dog.org http://kansas.watchdog.org/2010/compelling-stories-about-problems-with-placement-and-removal-of-children/
As well as lobbying and passing into law a mandate that judges must follow the law- a result of Judge Dowd departing from sentencing guidelines.) http://blip.tv/wwwkansansforjudicialaccountabilitycom/august-2007-convicted-child-rapist-seeks-custody-of-his-children-776865 More by Kansans For Judicial Accountability Judge Dowd KFJA Video Media: http://blip.tv/wwwkansansforjudicialaccountabilitycom
Only to have the same judge break that law two days after the Governor signed it into law. Instead of being charged with a crime of ‘breaking a law’ like any other non ‘just-us’ person would be—Judge Dowd was rewarded for his unethical and illegal actions, by being appointed to Washburn Law school to ‘teach’ law. Criminal Rewards start with the Judiciary and follow into the pandemic failure of all who enter the Judiciary seeking ‘Justice’. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P_BZmOX_YN8&feature=player_embedded
As you know, and have heard by many, all Judicial Complaints of Judges come back ‘rubber stamped’ no ethics violations, Judge Dowd was no exception to the rule. The Kansas Attorney Disciplinary Board is no better. Clear legal and ethical violations of an attorney GAL- Guardian ad Litem violating confidentiality rules, assaulting parties in the Courthouse halls, Police Reports and audio recordings- all come back rubber stamped ‘No Violations’, http://www.scribd.com/doc/56251013/2011-May-6-M-Jill-Dykes-Gets-Again-Rubber-Stampped-No-Violations whilst they still get paid monthly from county tax dollars for being on a case that that they never work.
Originally, this case was presented at the 1997 and 1998 Kansas Judicial Initiatives Commission Hearings by three different organizations. The Kansas Justice Commission in 1997. news articles published the case as a “judicial outrage” when presented at the Commission Hearings. The Judiciary has only gotten worst since those late 90’s ‘hearings’ not unlike what the current Blue Ribbon Commission is charged with now.
1997 Judicial Initiative Commission hearings by
 
SOLUTIONS:
I strongly urge that if you do nothing else that you watch these three documentaries that detail the family court corruption and the genocide of battered mothers and their children when they dare to leave a violent relationship with her children and enter Family courts thinking mistakenly that the courts would protect. That they had the human ‘right’ to be free of violence, when they do not.
    1. 2005 PBS Documentary: Breaking The Silence; Children’s StorieView in its entirety here: http://vodpod.com/watch/3314727-8-2008-bts-wmv?u=ampp&c=ampp
    2. 2008 Family law Documentary by the www.CenterForJudicialExcellence.org Crisis in the Family Courts; Our Children at Risk - View in its entirety here: http://vodpod.com/watch/3586260-family-court-crisis-our-children-at-risk-silent-no-more?u=ampp&c=ampp
    3. 2010 Domestic Violence Continued: High Conflict Child Custody Litigation View in its entirety here: http://vodpod.com/watch/4904503-dr-sharon-k-araji-talks-about-domestic-violence-in-contested-child-custody?u=ampp&c=ampp
    4. 2011 No Way Out But One is a documentary currently in post-production http://nowayoutbutone.com/index.html
 
By eliminating the “Therapeutic Jurisprudence” you will have cut the high cost of family Court and help to ensure ‘equal access to justice’ under the constitution. Technology is ‘key’ to all realms of the Judiciary. Publicizing and e filing is the best way to cut costs and ensure pro se litigants have equal access to their own court documents. It as well opens up the closed doors and shines a light giving less opportunity for corruption to grow.
There MUST be Transparency and accountability and consequences for derelict Judges and renegade Attorneys, Mental Health side kicks and other ‘friends of the courts’- known as (3rd party profiteers) They are why the system is so corrupt and they alone are causing the increased costs of running courts because after all is “Just-Us” and they line their pockets well.
REMOVE all ‘therapeutic jurisprudence’ which denies access to justice. Remove the mental health so called professionals , mediators, case managers, co-parenting, shared parenting and high conflict - shared parenting programs, who make a fortune by doing custody evaluations and taking a high conflict case’s translates into DOMESTIC VIOLENCE and ABUSE—‘therapeutic jurisprudence’ workers who by keeping high conflict -as such--- so that they can guarantee a continued payout from that case for the entire life of a childhood whom they claim to be working for the ‘best interest’ for many years, until age 18 when the children finally age out or die. Whichever comes first.
Judicial enforcement of Criminal laws into Family Court. Criminals should not be allowed to be sole custodian of small children period.
As Americans For Prosperity recently posted article--about this case and other outrageous cases by Kansas Judges: http://www.patrioticthunder.com/localissues.html
“Common sense says if you rape a little girl or beat the hell out of your wife you shall get punished for that in a severe matter. However, the list of outrage goes on. We believe at Patriotic Thunder that a Judge should have the ability to "depart" from the traditional sentencing, but dammit, use some common sense in ALL your cases and throw out the absurd ones, don't entertain this crap.

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27.9.09

'If batterers presented as batterers, nobody would date them or marry them'

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Domestic violence: Damas case shows how beloved friend can become ...
Naples Daily News - Naples,FL,USA
“If batterers presented as batterers, nobody would date them or marry them,” Oberhaus ... including figuring out who would get custody if there are kids and ...

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Evidence photos: Guerline Damas
  • Photos of Guerline Damas taken on January 5, 2009 by a member of the Collier County Sheriff Office to be submitted as evidence. According to the sheriff's office the photos are of injuries Guerline sustained during a domestic disturbance between her and her husband of 10 years, Mesac Damas. Damas was charged with battery.
  • Photos of Guerline Damas taken on January 5, 2009 by a member of the Collier County Sheriff Office to be submitted as evidence. According to the sheriff's office the photos are of injuries Guerline sustained during a domestic disturbance between her and her husband of 10 years, Mesac Damas. Damas was charged with battery.
  • Photos of Guerline Damas taken on January 5, 2009 by a member of the Collier County Sheriff Office to be submitted as evidence. According to the sheriff's office the photos are of injuries Guerline sustained during a domestic disturbance between her and her husband of 10 years, Mesac Damas. Damas was charged with battery.

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NAPLES — It’s a very slow process.

That’s how Melissa Dias described how a woman goes from partner to domestic violence victim.

The process answers the question many Southwest Floridians asked as the news of the death of Guerline Damas and her five children spread and the family’s history of domestic violence came to light.

Mesac Damas, 33, is accused of recently killing his wife, Guerline Dieu Damas, 32, and their children Meshach “Zack” Damas, 9; Maven, 6; Marven, 5; Megan, 3, and Morgan, 19 months, by slitting their throats and stabbing them. Court records show there was prior abuse in the home.

So why did she stay?

The truth, experts and advocates agree, is not as simple as picking up your bags and walking out.

Women don’t go into relationships thinking they are going to be abused, said Linda Oberhaus, executive director of the Shelter for Abused Women and Children in Collier County.

“If batterers presented as batterers, nobody would date them or marry them,” Oberhaus said.

Both Dias and Oberhaus said that it’s only once trust is established -- between the couple -- that abusers begin to show signs of possible domestic violence.

“I think that’s important,” Oberhaus said. “If he abused her on the first date, she would not have dated him.”

With many victims of domestic violence, Dias said, they saw the first sign of abuse but didn’t recognize what it meant.

“They realize something is wrong but they don’t know what it is,” Dias said.

Dias is a member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and has been affiliated for seven years with the Naples shelter. She now writes a blog about domestic violence.

Verbal abuse is usually the first step an aggressor takes against the victim, Oberhaus said.

“It happens so frequently, that they are really reduced to nothing,” Oberhaus said of the emotional abuse. “It’s almost like brainwashing.”

Simple attacks like “You’re dumb” or “You’re fat” to “Nobody will love you” and “You can’t make it without me” take an immense toll on a victim.

Systematic isolation usually follows.

“A stereotypical abuser won’t want her to have friends,” Dias said. “There is jealousy.”

Women are kept isolated even from family members, so if the woman interacts with them they would still be distant and quick to sever relations if the abuser demanded it.

“A woman slowly starts to lose her self-esteem and confidence,” she said. “Eventually physical abuse happens.”

It’s about power and control.

“Batterers choose who, when and where they batter,” Oberhaus said.

And to those who say, “Batterers can’t control themselves,” Oberhaus said that’s just not true.

“They are battering behind closed doors,” she said. “You don’t see a husband battering his wife out in public. He batters her privately. In a gut level, they know this is not OK … that this is not acceptable.”

Abuse has a significant psychological impact on a victim.

According to Oberhaus, research shows that as many 60 percent of battered women also reported depression.

In addition, battered women are at greater risk of suicide and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Even so, many victims marry their abusers, Dias said.

“You end up really feeling like you’re stuck in a situation,” Dias said. “You’ve married someone that is supposed to be with you forever.”

Love is one of the many reasons women stay in abusive relationships and it’s the hardest thing for many people to understand, Oberhaus said.

“You can’t leave out the fact that they probably do love their partner,” Oberhaus said.

Between having children in common and a long history, many women also believe that they can change the man.

And most don’t even acknowledge they’re being abused.

Because the abuser is always blaming the other person as the one at fault, Dias said, it creeps into a woman’s psyche.

“And eventually you believe it,” she said.

Domestic violence victims have to consider several issues before even attempting to reach out for help to leave a bad situation, including figuring out who would get custody if there are kids and determining if they could support their family if they leave.

“They’re afraid for their safety. They’re afraid for their children,” Oberhaus said. “They don’t want to be homeless and they need to have the ability to care for their kids.”

It’s that need to care for the kids that can both inspire or hold back a battered woman’s attempts to leave her abuser.

“In many relationships men are the breadwinners,” Oberhaus said. “They can easily say ‘You don’t have the resources’ and threaten to take the kids away. That is a real Catch-22.”

Kerrin Darkow, who works with the victim help line at the National Center for Victims of Crimes, said what caught her attention in the case of Guerline Damas was that she reached out for help several times.

“We do know that women in these situations try many different avenues to get help,” she said.

And for a victim of domestic violence, wanting to leave and being able to leave are two quite different things.

Fear and the fact the couple had five children between them could have contributed to her hesitance to leave.

“It’s a pipe dream to think that she could leave with her children and be fine,” said Darkow, who added that in many domestic violence cases, abusers use children as bargaining chips to get their victims to do what they want. “Leaving an abuser does not mean you are safe from an abuser.”

The time after a victim finally escapes the abuser is also the most dangerous time for them.

The best thing a friend or family member who realizes someone is in a domestic violence situation can do is call the local domestic violence hot line to create a safety plan, Oberhaus said.

“The reality is that a woman is most likely to be killed at the time that she leaves,” Oberhaus said. “And that’s a fact.”

Dias agreed.

“Men like to control you and scare you,” Dias said. “They will use whatever means to keep control.”

Dias said she found a new beginning when she connected with the Shelter for Abused Women and Children in Naples.

The shelter and others like it, she said, defy the myth that battered women’s shelters are cold, awful places.

“It’s just given me so much confidence -- confidence I never had in my life,” Dias said of the shelter and weekly support group she has attended for nearly seven years. “It’s more like a sisterhood ... It’s been a godsend for me.”

As for people asking, “Why does any woman stay?” Oberhaus said that it’s the wrong question to ask.

“When someone asks, ‘Why did she stay?’ -- that is victim-blaming,” Oberhaus said. “The question should be: ‘Why would a loving father and husband emotionally or physically batter his children or partner?’ ”

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Editor’s note: Monday, the Daily News begins a series of profile stories about the Damas family victims.

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  • respects your wishes if you want to end the relationship

 

 


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22.9.09

Living The Nightmare-Why are my children dead?

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Living The Nightmare

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Amy Leichtenberg quietly approached the casino boat gamblers with fliers, hoping they may have seen her ex-husband, a known gambler. Three weeks earlier, he abducted the couple’s two young sons and by now all other leads had come up snake eyes. Then her phone rang.

An investigator on the case told her to drive to the McLean County Sheriff’s Department to discuss something new in the case.

Leichtenberg excitedly made the two-hour drive to the police station, allowing herself to daydream about her two boys—9-year-old Duncan and 7-year-old Jack—happily greeting her there.

Inside the station, she didn’t see her boys waiting for her. Instead, Beth Kimmerling, the county coroner, introduced herself.

"No!" Leichtenberg screamed, quickly realizing her hopeful daydream turned into her worst nightmare. "No! No! No!"

The coroner couldn’t even get the words out, telling Leichtenberg that Duncan and Jack—the joys of her life—were dead. And her ex-husband was dead, too, taking his own life after killing both his sons.

"Where are my babies?!" Leichtenberg remembers asking frantically through sobs. "Where are my babies?!" The coroner told her the boys’ bodies were with their father’s body in the back of the police station.

"I want my boys as far away from him as possible!" Leichtenberg remembers yelling, punching a desk and nearby concrete walls.

As the coroner left, Leichtenberg dissolved into a chair, crying, screaming and shaking. She felt numb. She felt empty. She felt like joining her sons in heaven. "I want to see my babies," she remembers telling authorities. No, they told her. Not yet. Not now. Not in their condition.
She begged them. They refused.

To read the entire story about Amy Leicchtenberg in the October issue of Chicago Parent click HERE.

Amy Leichtenberg was a guest on the Susan Murphy Milano show to listen to the interview it plays from this site automatically make sure the volume of your computer is turned on. Susan's show willresume again on Wednesday October 7, 2009 at 4:00 PM.

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1.9.09

Video Presenters at the Sixth Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference: Albany NY 2009

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Sixth Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference:

http://bmcc6.blip.tv/

 

The Sixth Annual Battered Mother's Custody Conference: "Solutions"

Friday January 9th - Sunday 11th, 2009 Articles about the 2009 conference by professional journalists who were there:

Commentary womensforum.com By Garland WallerJanuary 13, 2009

The start of the New Year always fills me with hope, with plans for change, with determination. But for me, there is also an annual event that overshadows the hoopla and superficial goals. For me, the New Year heralds the Battered Mothers Custody Conference ... full article

This is Really Hard to Believe Opinion By Barry Nolan Thursday, 15 January 2009 09:14This is really hard to believe. I am sitting in a room filled with women who were beaten, and violated in terrible ways. The room is not in Bosnia, or some far flung third-world hell-hole. I am in a function room in a hotel in Albany at the Battered Mothers Custody Conference. ... full article

Presenters Schedule

BMCC VI Announcement and General InformationBrochure and Mail-In RegistrationOnline Registration 2009 Co-SponsorsSilent AuctionSupport the ConferenceAbout the Conference

Organizations and Support Resources

Legal Resources: Articles, Research,
Briefs, Case Law

Contribute a Panel to the "Children Taken By The Family Courts" Community Quilt

The Conference in PBS' 2005 Documentary

Film: Breaking the Silence, Children's StoriesFilm: Family Court Crisis

Testimonies filmed by Garland Waller at the 2008 conferen

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Just to Hurt Mum...

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Just to Hurt Mum...

A father who received shared parenting of the children:
1. Left a 14yo and 9yo alone in the home to see his girlfriend regularly.
2. Threatened to deprive them of their mother, if they told.
3. Took all of the furniture out of the house, leaving them with a few clothes and blankets.
4. Is relying on depression as an excuse of his negligence.
In the article, it states:
"Duty solicitor Mark Dollimore said the man was suffering depression, had not felt able to look after his children, and wanted to co-operate as much as he could."
Then why did he go to the Family Court and battle it out for Shared Parenting?
Just to hurt mum
Why would he leave them in such poor conditions?
Just to hurt mum
If he could not have cared for them, why didn't he just phone the mother?
Oh.. that's right, he is busy hurting the mother.
Fact is that the Family Court has been and is continually used as a weapon against mothers resulting in the harm of children. 
The people who made the shared parenting laws are bitter angry fathers who wanted the legal power to hurt not only their ex wives, but all mothers through the children.  They see them as nothing more than a commodity or a tool to use and spout their hatred for all women. 
Through the same charm and wit they used to lure these women into destructive environments, they used to promote this bill. 
Hence every mother who goes through this system, is forced to endure the suffering this shared parenting mob inflicted. 
The question is not how much suffering every mother can endure knowing that her children are at risk or are being abused and neglected.  The question is now, what is the government going to do about it?  How long do they have to endure this genocide?  How many idiots are they going to listen to before we are heard?
No matter how much you try to bury the truth rather than act, it will not only shine through but be sure there will be justice.

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31.8.09

Parental Alienation Syndrome Misused in Child Custody Cases, say Domestic Violence Advocacy Groups

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According to NNEDV, DV LEAP, SFV, and NCADV, victims of domestic violence face a surprisingly uphill battle in family court to win custody of and safety for their children. All too often, courts award custody and unsupervised visitation to parents found to have committed domestic abuse. Many courts handling custody cases do not understand the dynamics of domestic violence and fail to properly factor in the impact of abuse when considering the best interests of the child.

 

Leadership Council Issues Statement

Parental Alienation Syndrome Misused in Child Custody Cases, say Domestic Violence Advocacy Groups

The National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV), the Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment and Appeals Project (DV LEAP), Stop Family Violence, and the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, four of the nation's leading domestic violence victim advocacy organizations, call on the media and the courts to rectify the misunderstanding and misuse of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) in custody cases.

"Child custody cases are among the toughest cases courts have to handle. And in custody cases where domestic violence is involved, the judges have an even higher responsibility to ensure that the safety of family members is not dangerously impaired by misleading - and legally unjustifiable - ‘parental alienation syndrome' theories," said Sue Else, president of the National Network to End Domestic Violence.

"Parental Alienation Syndrome" is a claim that has been used to suggest that some parents try to undermine their children's relationship with the other parent, typically the noncustodial parent, by making false statements about that other parent, most often in the form of abuse allegations. In fact, actor Alec Baldwin made that claim about his own child custody case in a recent interview with Diane Sawyer.

"PAS is being used by some abusers as a tactic to demonize parents' attempts to protect their children from abuse, denying victims of domestic violence justice in the courts. The fact that some parents behave badly in ordinary cases is no reason to ignore real abuse when it is presented to the court," also stated Else.

Joan Meier, DV LEAP's Executive Director, said, "PAS was invented to defeat child abuse claims - and it has been remarkably successful in misleading family courts into believing that women who are sincerely trying to protect their children and themselves from abuse, are just seeking to end the children's relationship with their noncustodial father."

According to NNEDV, DV LEAP, SFV, and NCADV, victims of domestic violence face a surprisingly uphill battle in family court to win custody of and safety for their children. All too often, courts award custody and unsupervised visitation to parents found to have committed domestic abuse. Many courts handling custody cases do not understand the dynamics of domestic violence and fail to properly factor in the impact of abuse when considering the best interests of the child.

"The most important factor judges should be weighing in making custody decisions is the safety of the mother and children, and the introduction of PAS overshadows this critical need for safety," said Rita Smith, Executive Director of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

Meier states that research has shown that children become "alienated" from a parent for a variety of valid reasons, most often resulting from the parent's own negative behavior and relationship with that child.

"The proponents of ‘parental alienation syndrome' are purveying invalid junk science is not even legally admissible. PAS has been emphatically rejected by the Presidential Task Force of the American Psychological Association and by the National Council of Juvenile & Family Court Judges. Leading researchers in the field of custody have agreed that PAS has no scientific validity and the only courts to address the issue have found it inadmissible," said Meier.

"With the increased media attention surrounding the release of Alec Baldwin's book, it is important to let the public know that victims of domestic violence are being silenced through the use of ‘parental alienation syndrome.' We cannot afford to consign thousands of children to unsafe custody or visitation with abusive parents because family courts have come to believe that abuse allegations mean nothing more than a campaign of alienation," said Else.

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