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4.2.10

Testimony Before the House Committee on Corrections and Juvenile Justice Kansas House Bill 2517 Domestic Violence Law (DV tag)

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Douglas J. Miles Chief Deputy DA Colorado Springs, CO. Domestic Violence Specialist -

Written Testimony only.

 


Ed Klumpp_ Associations of: . Chief of Police_ Peace Officers_ Sherriff’s -

 

 


Jenny Marsh Director of Crime Victim Services Kansas Department of Corrections -

Listen To Jenny Marsh :

 
 
 


Judge Welch Johnson County Courthouse Domestic Violence Docket -

Written Testimony only.

 

 

Kari Ann Rinker KSNOW-Lobbyist -

Listen to Kari Ann Rinker:

 
 
 


Mark Gleason OPPOSED -

Listen to Mark Gleason

 

 


Sandy Barnett KCSDV -

Listen To Sandy Barnett:

 

 


Robert Stephan Chair Domestic Violence Fatality Review Board -

Listen To Bob Stephan:

 
 

 


Judge Harold Flaigle Domestic Violence Fatality Review Board -

Listen To Judge Harold Flaigle:
 
 
 


Michelle Blasdel- Survivor Written Testimony For Domestic Violence Tag Law proponent HB 2517 -

Written Testimony only.

 


Claudine Dombrowski- Survivor- Submitted Written Testimony For Domestic Violence Tag Law -

Written Testimony only.

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27.9.09

'If batterers presented as batterers, nobody would date them or marry them'

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Domestic violence: Damas case shows how beloved friend can become ...
Naples Daily News - Naples,FL,USA
“If batterers presented as batterers, nobody would date them or marry them,” Oberhaus ... including figuring out who would get custody if there are kids and ...

Damas Family Homicide Investigation: Day 6; Sept. 24, 2009

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Damas Family Homicide Investigation: Day 5; Sept. 23, 2009

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Evidence photos: Guerline Damas
  • Photos of Guerline Damas taken on January 5, 2009 by a member of the Collier County Sheriff Office to be submitted as evidence. According to the sheriff's office the photos are of injuries Guerline sustained during a domestic disturbance between her and her husband of 10 years, Mesac Damas.  Damas was charged with battery.
  • Photos of Guerline Damas taken on January 5, 2009 by a member of the Collier County Sheriff Office to be submitted as evidence. According to the sheriff's office the photos are of injuries Guerline sustained during a domestic disturbance between her and her husband of 10 years, Mesac Damas.  Damas was charged with battery.
  • Photos of Guerline Damas taken on January 5, 2009 by a member of the Collier County Sheriff Office to be submitted as evidence. According to the sheriff's office the photos are of injuries Guerline sustained during a domestic disturbance between her and her husband of 10 years, Mesac Damas.  Damas was charged with battery.

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WHERE TO FIND HELP

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■ Shelter for Abused Women and Children: www.naplesshelter.org or call (239) 775-3862. If you are in a domestic violence situation, call the shelter’s 24-hour crisis line (239) 775-1101.

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■ Abuse Counseling and Treatment: www.actabuse.com or call (239) 939-2553. If you are in a domestic violence situation, call the shelter’s 24-hour crisis line (239) 939-3112.

NAPLES — It’s a very slow process.

That’s how Melissa Dias described how a woman goes from partner to domestic violence victim.

The process answers the question many Southwest Floridians asked as the news of the death of Guerline Damas and her five children spread and the family’s history of domestic violence came to light.

Mesac Damas, 33, is accused of recently killing his wife, Guerline Dieu Damas, 32, and their children Meshach “Zack” Damas, 9; Maven, 6; Marven, 5; Megan, 3, and Morgan, 19 months, by slitting their throats and stabbing them. Court records show there was prior abuse in the home.

So why did she stay?

The truth, experts and advocates agree, is not as simple as picking up your bags and walking out.

Women don’t go into relationships thinking they are going to be abused, said Linda Oberhaus, executive director of the Shelter for Abused Women and Children in Collier County.

“If batterers presented as batterers, nobody would date them or marry them,” Oberhaus said.

Both Dias and Oberhaus said that it’s only once trust is established -- between the couple -- that abusers begin to show signs of possible domestic violence.

“I think that’s important,” Oberhaus said. “If he abused her on the first date, she would not have dated him.”

With many victims of domestic violence, Dias said, they saw the first sign of abuse but didn’t recognize what it meant.

“They realize something is wrong but they don’t know what it is,” Dias said.

Dias is a member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and has been affiliated for seven years with the Naples shelter. She now writes a blog about domestic violence.

Verbal abuse is usually the first step an aggressor takes against the victim, Oberhaus said.

“It happens so frequently, that they are really reduced to nothing,” Oberhaus said of the emotional abuse. “It’s almost like brainwashing.”

Simple attacks like “You’re dumb” or “You’re fat” to “Nobody will love you” and “You can’t make it without me” take an immense toll on a victim.

Systematic isolation usually follows.

“A stereotypical abuser won’t want her to have friends,” Dias said. “There is jealousy.”

Women are kept isolated even from family members, so if the woman interacts with them they would still be distant and quick to sever relations if the abuser demanded it.

“A woman slowly starts to lose her self-esteem and confidence,” she said. “Eventually physical abuse happens.”

It’s about power and control.

“Batterers choose who, when and where they batter,” Oberhaus said.

And to those who say, “Batterers can’t control themselves,” Oberhaus said that’s just not true.

“They are battering behind closed doors,” she said. “You don’t see a husband battering his wife out in public. He batters her privately. In a gut level, they know this is not OK … that this is not acceptable.”

Abuse has a significant psychological impact on a victim.

According to Oberhaus, research shows that as many 60 percent of battered women also reported depression.

In addition, battered women are at greater risk of suicide and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Even so, many victims marry their abusers, Dias said.

“You end up really feeling like you’re stuck in a situation,” Dias said. “You’ve married someone that is supposed to be with you forever.”

Love is one of the many reasons women stay in abusive relationships and it’s the hardest thing for many people to understand, Oberhaus said.

“You can’t leave out the fact that they probably do love their partner,” Oberhaus said.

Between having children in common and a long history, many women also believe that they can change the man.

And most don’t even acknowledge they’re being abused.

Because the abuser is always blaming the other person as the one at fault, Dias said, it creeps into a woman’s psyche.

“And eventually you believe it,” she said.

Domestic violence victims have to consider several issues before even attempting to reach out for help to leave a bad situation, including figuring out who would get custody if there are kids and determining if they could support their family if they leave.

“They’re afraid for their safety. They’re afraid for their children,” Oberhaus said. “They don’t want to be homeless and they need to have the ability to care for their kids.”

It’s that need to care for the kids that can both inspire or hold back a battered woman’s attempts to leave her abuser.

“In many relationships men are the breadwinners,” Oberhaus said. “They can easily say ‘You don’t have the resources’ and threaten to take the kids away. That is a real Catch-22.”

Kerrin Darkow, who works with the victim help line at the National Center for Victims of Crimes, said what caught her attention in the case of Guerline Damas was that she reached out for help several times.

“We do know that women in these situations try many different avenues to get help,” she said.

And for a victim of domestic violence, wanting to leave and being able to leave are two quite different things.

Fear and the fact the couple had five children between them could have contributed to her hesitance to leave.

“It’s a pipe dream to think that she could leave with her children and be fine,” said Darkow, who added that in many domestic violence cases, abusers use children as bargaining chips to get their victims to do what they want. “Leaving an abuser does not mean you are safe from an abuser.”

The time after a victim finally escapes the abuser is also the most dangerous time for them.

The best thing a friend or family member who realizes someone is in a domestic violence situation can do is call the local domestic violence hot line to create a safety plan, Oberhaus said.

“The reality is that a woman is most likely to be killed at the time that she leaves,” Oberhaus said. “And that’s a fact.”

Dias agreed.

“Men like to control you and scare you,” Dias said. “They will use whatever means to keep control.”

Dias said she found a new beginning when she connected with the Shelter for Abused Women and Children in Naples.

The shelter and others like it, she said, defy the myth that battered women’s shelters are cold, awful places.

“It’s just given me so much confidence -- confidence I never had in my life,” Dias said of the shelter and weekly support group she has attended for nearly seven years. “It’s more like a sisterhood ... It’s been a godsend for me.”

As for people asking, “Why does any woman stay?” Oberhaus said that it’s the wrong question to ask.

“When someone asks, ‘Why did she stay?’ -- that is victim-blaming,” Oberhaus said. “The question should be: ‘Why would a loving father and husband emotionally or physically batter his children or partner?’ ”

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Editor’s note: Monday, the Daily News begins a series of profile stories about the Damas family victims.

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Who will hear your cries? Domestic Violence Sexual Assault

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SUSAN MURPHY MILANO http://www.susanmurphymilano.com/

AUTHOR ~ ACTIVIST ~ SPEAKER ~ CONSULTANT

 

When you think you've run out of

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RELATIONSHIP RESPECT CHECKLIST

If you are in a relationship, you must be treated with respect, which means your boyfriend or partner:

  • is willing to compromise
  • lets you feel comfortable being yourself
  • is able to admit to being wrong
  • tries to resolve conflict by talking honestly
  • respects your feelings, your opinions and your friends
  • accepts you saying no to things you don't want to do (like sex)
  • accepts you changing your mind
  • respects your wishes if you want to end the relationship

 

 


When someone loves you; you feel valued, respected and free to be yourself
. You shouldn't be made to feel intimidated or controlled.

Think about your relationship - do you feel respected?
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1.9.09

Video Presenters at the Sixth Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference: Albany NY 2009

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Sixth Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference:

http://bmcc6.blip.tv/

 

The Sixth Annual Battered Mother's Custody Conference: "Solutions"

Friday January 9th - Sunday 11th, 2009 Articles about the 2009 conference by professional journalists who were there:

Commentary womensforum.com By Garland WallerJanuary 13, 2009

The start of the New Year always fills me with hope, with plans for change, with determination. But for me, there is also an annual event that overshadows the hoopla and superficial goals. For me, the New Year heralds the Battered Mothers Custody Conference ... full article

This is Really Hard to Believe Opinion By Barry Nolan Thursday, 15 January 2009 09:14This is really hard to believe. I am sitting in a room filled with women who were beaten, and violated in terrible ways. The room is not in Bosnia, or some far flung third-world hell-hole. I am in a function room in a hotel in Albany at the Battered Mothers Custody Conference. ... full article

Presenters Schedule

BMCC VI Announcement and General InformationBrochure and Mail-In RegistrationOnline Registration 2009 Co-SponsorsSilent AuctionSupport the ConferenceAbout the Conference

Organizations and Support Resources

Legal Resources: Articles, Research,
Briefs, Case Law

Contribute a Panel to the "Children Taken By The Family Courts" Community Quilt

The Conference in PBS' 2005 Documentary

Film: Breaking the Silence, Children's StoriesFilm: Family Court Crisis

Testimonies filmed by Garland Waller at the 2008 conferen

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28.8.09

The Crucial importance of mother “Common Sense”

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But of course  Maternal Deprivation from mother during any time of a growing child is sadistic- I know- my daughter knows- It has been now eleven years- that we have been denied to even simply ‘hug’. –but of course it is more imperative that we ‘not tarnish the image of father’

- after all it is not healthy for a child to see her father as the convicted bully and wife beater that he is- so- contact has been denied- to keep her from ;knowing of the violence. Thanks to the power of www-  the Silence has been broken..

 

Maternal Deprivation was inflicted on monkeys by Harry Harlow with terrible consequences. Now this abuse is spreading to humans promulgated by unethical psychologists who are experimenting in social engineering on human children.

http://www.nfpandmore.org/firstthreeintro.shtml

 

First Three Years

This section of our website offers information on the importance of the presence of the mother during the first three years of life. These years are critical in child development. Personal experiences from those mothers or couples who understand the importance of the mother’s presence during the early years will be found at the “Readers’ Views.”

 

Breastfeeding: An Important Foundation September 21, 2008
Breastfeeding and the Early Years September 14, 2008
The Breastfeeding Continuum September 7, 2008
Breastfeeding: What’s Important? The Mother or the Milk?August 7, 2007
The Importance of the Mother During the First Three YearsFebruary 28, 2005
The Crucial First Three Years 1998 booklet

 

 

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23.8.09

Parental Alienation Syndrome: How Gullible Are We?

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Parental Alienation Syndrome: How Gullible Are We?

Filed under: Activism, Child Custody Battle, Child Custody Issues, Child custody for fathers,Corrupt bastards, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Relations, Domestic Violence, Dr. Richard Gardner, Family Court Reform, Family Courts, Family Rights, Legal abuse, Parental Alienation Syndrome, Whores of the court, parental alienation — justice4mothers @ 8:48 am

Up for inclusion in the new DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the most widely used psychiatric reference in the world) is the so-called “Parental Alienation Syndrome,” a syndrome invented by the pedophile-loving psychologist Dr. Richard Gardner, who committed suicide eventually.  Also up for inclusion again is making women’s menstrual cycles a psychiatric syndrome. Geezzzzz.

Money-grubbing nutcase lawyers and/or psychologists (in some cases they have both degrees!) work to get these so-called syndromes included so they can use them as a basis for taking children from protective parents (and make more money).  They use this twisted science as a basis for their claims…just how gullible do they think we all are?  Apparently many judges are, and the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges are trying to correct this: see Family Courts are Warned They Should Not Accept So-called “Parental Alienation Syndrome”.

Here is a good example of how gullible people can be when you start throwing out so-called “scientific claims”:

Dihydrogen Monoxide

Dihydrogen Monoxide

A student at Eagle Rock Junior High won first prize at the Greater Idaho Falls Science Fair, April 26. He was attempting to show how conditioned we have become to alarmists practicing junk science and spreading fear of everything in our environment. In his project he urged people to sign a petition demanding strict control or total elimination of the chemical “dihydrogen monoxide.”

And for plenty of good reasons, since:

1. it can cause excessive sweating and vomiting 2. it is a major component in acid rain 3. it can cause severe burns in its gaseous state 4. accidental inhalation can kill you 5. it contributes to erosion 6. it decreases effectiveness of automobile brakes 7. it has been found in tumors of terminal cancer patients

He asked 50 people if they supported a ban of the chemical.

Forty-three (43) said yes, six (6) were undecided, and only one (1) knew that the chemical was actually just plain old water.

The title of his prize winning project was, “How Gullible Are We?”

He feels the conclusion is obvious.

http://www.snopes.com/science/dhmo.asp


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22.8.09

Domestic violence: Marin's most prevalent violent crime

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Domestic violence: Marin's most prevalent violent crime

Jennifer Upshaw

Posted: 07/18/2009 10:33:46 PM PDT

http://www.marinij.com/marinnews/ci_12869767

This 49-year-old Mill Valley mother of two, a domestic violence victim, said she can relate to Danielle Keller, whose slaying hits close to home. (IJ photo/Jeff Vendsel)

The stigma of domestic violence is so great, the 49-year-old mother of two from Mill Valley didn't want her name used. But she said she can relate to what happened to Danielle Keller, the young mother who authorities said was killed last Sunday by her abuser."It's scary, of course it hits close to home," said the woman, who in May 2008 left an already troubled marriage after her drunken husband kicked down the door to their son's bedroom and then pushed her down on the bed and repeatedly struck her. Her teenage son, she believes, saved her from further harm by calling the police.

"I'm very sad for the family," she said of Keller's family. "I have to wonder about the child. What's going to happen to the child? As a mother that's your first instinct. For me, I was lucky and not everybody is that lucky."

The death of Danielle Keller has turned the spotlight once again on domestic violence, the most prevalent of violent crimes in Marin County, accounting for 50 percent to 55 percent of nonvehicular homicides in the past five years, according to the district attorney.

So far this year, two of Marin's three homicides have been domestic violence-related.

"Yes, obviously it disturbs me," said Marin District Attorney Ed Berberian. "We've got to address family violence and domestic violence."

James Raphael Mitchell, 27, of Pittsburg, son of the late San Francisco porn king Jim Mitchell, was charged with first-degree murder, domestic violence, kidnapping, child abduction and child endangerment in the July 12 baseball-bat beating death of his former girlfriend, 29-year-old Keller, and the kidnapping of their 1-year-old daughter.

The incident occurred despite a restraining order against Mitchell and a string of violent incidents, according to court records. Such incidents are not uncommon.

Addressing domestic violence

In the past five years, 88 percent of the 4,569 cases referred to the Marin district attorney's office by law enforcement agencies have

Facilitator Bill Eichhorn leads a discussion during a batters intervention educational class held at the The Mankind Program in San Rafael. (IJ photo/Jeff Vendsel)

involved domestic violence, according to statistics provided by the nonprofit advocacy group Marin Abused Women's Services.In addition to the Mitchell case, prosecutors are preparing for a preliminary hearing Aug. 31 in the matter of Chet Turner, a 48-year-old man accused in the April stabbing death of Avril Clary, 46, of Sausalito, with whom he shared a home on Bridgeway. The suspect told at least three acquaintances he killed her, authorities have said.

The death of 9-year-old Melody Osheroff is being prosecuted as a homicide but is not a domestic violence case. Edward John Schaefer, 43, is accused of riding intoxicated into a crosswalk on May 27, hitting Melody and her father, Aaron, who is recovering from his injuries.

Berberian said his office spends about $1.3 million of its $16 million budget on domestic violence cases. A specially created family violence court established about a year ago deals only with individuals who have pleaded guilty to misdemeanor charges. A family violence prosecution team also has been established with specific attorneys assigned to cases. A more aggressive stance on misdemeanors has been developed, although such cases can be difficult to prosecute, Berberian said.

"When it gets in front of a jury it gets more difficult to impress upon a jury the danger of the situation because they don't see the injury results," he said. "In domestic violence, in particular, you many times have a victim that does not cooperate for all sorts of reasons.

"We have to try to," he added. "We're not going to just drop these cases because we have an uncooperative victim. We're going to try to press on if we can."

Provincial attitudes about the problem have improved somewhat but still exist, prosecutors said.

"Unfortunately there are still people that have that attitude, 'Well, this is just a domestic.' Well, these domestics turn into what we saw last week and you just can't ignore them.

"It's happening in Ross, it's happening in Novato, it's happening in Belvedere, it's happening everywhere," Berberian said.

"It's just very tragic - the cost to the family and to our community."

Help from MAWS

At Marin Abused Women's Services, a 30-year organization that assists about 3,000 victims of domestic violence annually, requests for emergency shelter have been increasing and there is a growing waiting list for transitional housing facilities, officials said.In 2008, the MAWS hotline received 1,918 calls. The group provided 5,548 nights of emergency shelter; 17,338 nights of transitional housing; advocacy and assistance to 568 women who needed restraining, protective and custody orders; and training for domestic violence prevention practitioners throughout California and the nation through 81 workshops reaching more than 1,332 participants.

Media coverage depicting the Mitchell family history as tragic and the incident as a "crime of passion" have been frustrating and distract from the societal problem - the "continuum of abusive behavior," said Donna Garske, MAWS founder and chief executive.

"Domestic violence is a deliberate action," she said. "It's a clear intention and a behavior of choice.

"There are a lot of people that have rough lives and don't commit acts of violence," Garske said.

Progress, particularly since the 1994 passage of the Violence Against Women Act, has been made, but "you can have the best darn coordinated system in the country and still have domestic violence," Garske said.

"Early intervention and prevention is really key to getting this problem to stop," she said.

Family law court

Some critics continue to point to the family law court at the Hall of Justice, where several judges and a former district attorney were targeted years ago in an unsuccessful recall campaign. The critics claimed Marin's family law court was a cesspool of cronyism and corruption that favored well-connected lawyers in child-custody disputes.Indeed, the system for years has been plagued by favoritism, and domestic violence cases can fall victim to it, said Barbara Kauffman, a San Rafael family law attorney and vocal critic of family law court in Marin.

"If the alleged abuser is: A, wealthy; B, white; and C, has representation by a favored attorney or a popular attorney, I don't see the restraining orders being issued," she said, adding that she has heard that more have been issued as of late as public scrutiny has intensified.

"I think because the heat is being turned up there may likely be and I hear people saying there are more restraining orders issued now," she said. "I do think they are making more of an effort. I think especially in cases where money and politics aren't involved they really are issuing a lot more.

"I think all cases should be decided fairly based on the facts and the law - not based on money or race or any of those outside factors," said Kauffman, who said she believes a changing of the guard on the bench could bring about positive change.

A new venue would help too, she added.

"What is a criminal issue is being decided in the family courts and it's inappropriate," Kauffman said.

Could be, said Charlotte Hideko Huggins, a family law attorney who represented Keller.

"Perhaps if these cases were not handled in family court, and they were handled in criminal court, maybe they would be taken more seriously," she said.

"For every 10 cases that are just maneuvering between couples and their relationship there is this one deadly person out there.

"I have to say in my experience domestic violence victims are very difficult clients to convince to stay away," she said. "The abuser first beats down your self-esteem so you think you are not worthy of anyone but him, (gets you in his) financial clutches, and then cuts you off from everybody.

"I think there has to be full enforcement of these orders," Huggins said of restraining orders and orders of protection. "This is where the counseling comes in.

"The victims need to understand that this is a serious issue," she said, adding that she had great difficulty convincing Keller to stay away.

"She was a sweet young woman. Even with all the abuse there was a level of naivet that I couldn't break through," Huggins said. "You have to be consistent and you have to say no."

GETTING HELP

For domestic violence help and information, call the women's 24-hour hotline at 924-6616. Spanish speakers can call 924-3456. The men's 24-hour hotline is 924-1070.

BY THE NUMBERS

50-55

Percent of nonvehicular homicides attributed to domestic violence in the past five years in Marin

88

Percent of cases referred to the district attorney's office in the past five years that involved domestic violence

2 of 3

Number of Marin homicides this year that have been attributed to domestic violence

Contact Jennifer Upshaw via e-mail at jupshaw@marinij.com

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