Judicial Abuse

 

 

Judicial Abuse [from web archive]

Introduction

Judicial abuse occurs when the effects of law itself are damaging to the person access to justice. In the most severe forms, Judicial abuse often occurs involving the most vulnerable members of our world: Children. For some time, judicial abuse has occurred across systems and mostly against mothers and children. Considering that it was not that long ago that both women and children were seen and not heard, just as things were improving it seemed as though humanity was finally valuing each and every precious human life. Out in the public, such things would and do cause enough outrage for a sense of "natural justice". Away from the public eye, these human rights atrocities occur almost unseen and unheard like a thief in the night.

Secrecy

There are laws that prevent survivors from speaking out about their experiences. Whilst it is "for the children", children are not allowed to speak about the proceedings either. The media have written too few articles on the family court. To bring the case to the media, participants must seek permission from the court itself or face imprisonment. Controversially, fathers rights groups were allowed to heavily voice their stories of "no contact", "falsely accused of child abuse and domestic violence" and few were allowed to challenge that except in utilizing generalist terms and evidence based research. We are aware that most of these stories are not the case at all but are withheld by law to bring the public the truth.

Family Court

In the process of seeking more time with children and promoting what appears to be the most noble cause, has entrenched the rights of mothers and children in their ability to seek safety from violence. Heads have been quoted in the media for stating that "family violence is our core business". The propaganda that is spread about the voices of children and their access to justice promotes the profitability in manufacturing child abuse and domestic violence. They can do something about it, but it is not within their best economical advantage to do so. This will continue until something is done

A Nation of Motherless Children? Father's Rights

A Nation of Motherless Children? | Janie McQueen, Author and Divorce Gamesmanship Expert

A Nation of Motherless Children?
http://janiemcqueen.com/a-nation-of-motherless-children/

"In some of the more severely manipulated cases, the tables were turned on mothers who sought to protect their children from abusive fathers; they were punished in family court and by the abusive parent.

Many are limited to a couple hours’ supervised visitation every two weeks. They don’t have the privilege of shaking on the bleachers with the rest of us, who naturally take such excursions for granted. Many times there’s a protective order that would keep them from attending even public events such as this, when all they long to do is see their children in action, and enjoy a game to break up a brutal week of missing their children.

...What kind of man goes to every length and expense possible to deny his children a healthy, some would say critical, portion of motherly love in their lives? Or not even that–what kind of man begrudges his ex any meaningful contact with her own children? Is this not evidence he could be lacking as a father? If not, why? Sorry about that failed relationship, man, but the children from it remain. Lucky you to have a magic wallet to make it all go away.

It’s time to stop treating kids as chattel instead of children."

Janie McQueen's Book on How Family Court Is A Game:
Hanging On By My Fingernails: Surviving the New Divorce Gamesmanship, and How a Scratch Can Land You in Jail

In this daring, groundbreaking book, journalist Janie McQueen unveils the truth behind the "new divorce gamesmanship"--vicious tactics that thrust victims into complex webs of legal tangles that destroy spirits and hobble divorce cases.

These surprisingly common--and legally deadly--ploys can and often lead to criminal charges and trials, lingering records, heartbreaking child custody battles, embarrassing distortion campaigns, and even unemployment as employers increasingly trawl the Internet for background checks.

Monologues brings attention to domestic violence. Vagina Monologues

By ALYSSA COFFEY

The movement known as V-Day began 14 years ago from the “outrageous idea that we could end violence against women.” This goal, as described above by V-Day pioneer Eve Ensler, has created a new culture celebrated at USC with the annual production of The Vagina Monologues.

According to the Family Violence Prevention Fund, one in three women will face sexual or physical assault in her lifetime. For 2013, V-Day sought to emphasize that ending violence against women is a global battle with the theme One Billion Rising.

The Vagina Monologues provides an artistic medium to raise awareness about these issues of violence through camaraderie and comedy, by way of vaginas. V-Day aims to raise campus awareness within the student body concerning the problems faced by students with vaginas by engaging the campus in the show and reducing the stigma of discussion surround vaginas.

Samantha Brown, the current director of the production,  said she became involved because the organization has gotten smaller since people have graduated. She believes the show to be insightful and that everyone should see it. Since USC once hosted the author of The Vagina Monologues, the goal is to revitalize the organization to its greatest period of involvement seen in 2009.

Francesca Bessey, a sophomore majoring in narrative studies and international relations, said she was drawn to her involvement with V-Day and The Vagina Monologues in an effort to exemplify how diverse the student body is and to engage issues of gender, race and sexual violence which are underrepresented at USC.

The monologues, with names like “Hair” and “My Vagina Was My Village,” range in tone from comedic to heartfelt, emotions that will be communicated by the cast of 28 students. The female-identified cast was recruited and auditioned late last semester, with directors Alexis Agolsove and Katelyn Morse  matching them with particular monologues. The cast has been diligently rehearsing for the show at the Village Gate Theater.

Brown hopes that attendees will feel compelled to stand up this year and join One Billion Rising after seeing the show. The show looks not only to enlighten but also enliven in this way.

To contribute to the movement at large, V-Day at USC is supporting programs actively engaged in work against domestic violence. All of the proceeds from The Vagina Monologues will benefit V-Day USC’s nonprofit partner,A Window Between Worlds. This is a nonprofit that works to use art to combat domestic violence and facilitates the healing and empowerment of survivors through their creative expression projects.

The organization’s curriculum of renewing art has helped over 74,000 women and children since 1991. As a contribution to V-Day’s One Billion Rising effort, A Window Between Worlds developed its own project called “I Can We Can” where people create art on their palms expressing what they can do to fight, bring awareness to or overcome different forms of gender violence we encounter.

After creating their piece, people are invited to upload an image to the catalogue of images on A Window Between Worlds’ website, which functions as a compilation of action-worthy statements regarding the movement against domestic violence. People will be able to participate in this project both at The Vagina Monologues show and later in the semester on Trousdale Parkway.

Other productions of The Vagina Monologues and the movement at large have raised more than $90 million, benefited numerous community-based programs dedicated to anti-violence causes and helped to sustain shelters among other philanthropic efforts. The V-Day campaign has been acknowledged for its outstanding charitable work in publications including Worth’s 100 Best Charities and Marie Claire’s Top 10 Charities.

Despite its unique and slightly risque title, The Vagina Monologues is a production well worth seeing this Valentine’s Day weekend.

William M Windsor - American Terrorist. Endangering Domestic Violence Victims and Survivors

“Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the Oppressed. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Sometimes we must interfere.” -Elie Wiesel, Holocaust Survivor

“How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.” -Anne Frank

"It is error only, and not truth, that shrinks from inquiry. "
-Thomas Paine

 

American Mothers

Political Party

Any cause, is good when always -- in all that you do, you maintain your honor, dignity and self respect. Life’s guiding tool. I learned this from my Romanian grandmother and Father who survived the death camps in Auschwitz and then Dachau – when finally they were liberated by the US - my grandfather - 2^nd wave of Normandy. The reason I exist is because of the way humanity works when the heart is in the right place.

We can learn about ourselves all throughout history. I encourage this as it is besides being interesting, it is repeated. I have had to learn that by abiding to the simple human rights of humanity that we can, or will, ‘’Rise a Nation’’ in a good cause, or even at minimum, because this is the good battle, the high road, the ultimate justice.

I watched a very good miniseries today, World Without End. Throughout it, I kept thinking of ‘the very notable parallels’ of the sudden 180 turn by Bill on so many people, and in doing so, the use of my website to hide behind for ‘his own’ actions.

Throughout my almost two decades of being involved in a inhumane civil society that rewards for ‘criminal violence’ and continues to perpetrate atrocious human rights violations against any people, usually a ‘category’ of people -- in what I do and with the countless mothers I have personally worked with – is a ‘category’ of people, a holocaustic hatred towards mothers and their children when they try to regain their Human Rights to be free of torture -- only to be tortured further by their tormentor in yet One More Battleground of an already full arsenal. Family Court.

I do not usually ‘feed’ into those who are so driven with all their time, to try to hurt a ‘category’ of already oppressed people. Real humans know this, so no words are needed, those who do not, no words are adequate. Besides, quite simply, I don’t do drama.

In order to carry on -- although Bill has hurt so many through black mail, coercion and has threatened the safety of so many mothers and their children by sharing their intimate and confidential information on the non real world of face book – a dangerous place anyways, because ‘he thinks’ something - and his excuse for ‘his’ own actions and behavior is to ‘hide’ behind American Mothers Political Party website (AMPP). I would ask, “Why would someone do this?” However, I long ago stopped asking that and worrying about those types of people who feed on the frailty of vulnerable people.

So with that, I will simply state that American Mothers Political Party (AMPP) and I -- are one in the same. My 1^st and last (and imo to much) but if it will cease your obsession of endangering mothers or any one for that matter, my statement (and I am being nice - most get a ‘two word’ statement from me when they act like you have)

I, Claudine Dombrowski or AMMPP (again only I am AMPP) state that everything you Bill have said about AMPP is and has been and likely to remain “intentionally distorted and inaccurate.” Let the record be clear, I, and I alone maintain the website www.AmericanMothers.PoliticalParty.org Bill, you know this – and always have.

Bill, I have not threatened you, I have not, nor do I have the power to stop your goal. No copy right violations (I do know them, just ask PBS). I had thought, the concept of LA was a good idea, is why it saddened me (when, although I have broad shoulders) that you systematically began removing mothers who have been ‘battered’ by the fathers of their children, in horrendous ways, because you- 'gave them' (bill almighty) a chance to disengage with American Mothers Political Party or to ‘tell’ their side of story, wow!! Talk about demanding and classic black mail - and you do, hold that power - 'control' of fear over them with their personal, sensitive and life threatening information, entrusted to you, a power which you have misused and freely wield.

You see, I need no public support, the truth is self-sustained. I will not hurt others to prop myself up. I will not alter, nor publish or intimidate others so basically I just ignore you. As I have with others like you throughout the last two decades, as I am sure will be others in the next two decades. I will not drop everything because you or any other ‘demands’ it. I will not defend myself against ignorance or ‘play’ into the need for self absorption.

I will not engage in your feeding frenzy obsession and with American Mothers Political Party as simply, I try to spend my energy doing what I always have, keeping my energy focused on the positive and future real change, for all - as well with a ‘special’ heart held dream of freedom for that 'category' of people - battered mothers and their children.

Anyone with any inclination, can research easily, any ones ignorance towards these mothers and the issues surrounding them. For those who do not, no amount of dialogue is possible to change their mind, nor their narcissistic - attention seeking behaviors.

So perhaps, maybe you can come back down to reality and realize that all the good you have done you are destroying – hiding behind the ‘hatred of myself and my website American Mothers Political Party’. I have always told mothers, fathers and grandparents and cps victims that there is no ‘messiah’ or any –one sure way to regain so many freedoms lost on top of the already human rights freedoms that Domestic Violence Victims have and continue to endure.

It’s just not important to society, dead women and children, terror and fear of those - perpetrated by their most intimate partner, lover and at one time friend. It is a terror a betrayal that is more than just a crime. Simple Human rights.

I have not looked today what fear and terror you have stricken in others in the name of yourself, behind the skirt of American Mothers Political Party, but from a email post that you say you received (although was meant for me/ AMPP) and the oddly twisted cognitive thought process to assume that out of that email, you deduce ‘your own’ mantras of what ‘you think’ I said, what you ASSume...

I alone, own, operate and maintain www.AmericanMothersPoliticalParty.org I alone, no one else. Simple enough?

Now, you know as do others. Come after me and leave everyone else alone. You can no longer hide behind the ‘skirts’ of amp as to why, with your twisted excuses, of why you are hurting these mothers.

Bill - you have already posted my address, email along with so many others. You know where to send your law suits.

Southern Poverty Law Center on the Fathers' Rights Movement

Listed as a HATE Group e.g. Skin heads, Westborough Baptist Church, Neo Nazi’s etc…

· AMPP Home

· AMPP Article Library

News and Events

§ American Mothers Political Party Denounces “Dominick’s Law” In Michigan

§ Monsters In the Closet - Domestic Violence From a Child's View

§ Parental Alienation: A 'Mythical Legal Argument'

§ PRESS RELEASE: HISTORIC US SUPREME COURT CASE

§ It’s Not Angst Over Custody: Fathers Kill Their Children to Punish Their Ex-Partners

§ “Hearts Across America” -- Million Mom March Mother's Day 2011, at 1600 Pennsylvania Ave. Washington, D.C.

§ Cut $500 Million from the Fatherhood Initiative and Hold Congressional Hearings

§ Family Courts Helping Pedophiles, Batterers Get Child Custody

§ UN Mothers UNiTE to End Violence Against Mothers And Their Children Campaign

§ Mothers Of Lost Children Rally In Washington, D.C. FEBRUARY 13th and 14th, 2011

§ Parental Alienation and Domestic Violence

§ Battered Women, Abused Children, Child Custody A National Crisis

§ Ms.Mag and Reality Check SLAMM HuffPo’s Censorship Protecting Abusers Tool by Dr. Warshak

§ Failures of U.S. Courts Forces Mothers to Turn to International Law

§ PRESS RELEASE: AMPP Stands Behind Christian Coffey HIS Mother and All Their Supporters

§ Melinda Stratton: Another Mother 'Hunted' Down

Multi Media

Documentaries Of Importance

§ Dr. Phil Exposes the Crisis in Family Court

§ INTERVIEW WITH DOMINIQUE LASSEUR, PRODUCER OF “BREAKING THE SILENCE: CHILDREN’S STORIES”

§ Family Court Related Research and Articles

§ MISTAKES MOTHERS MAKE in Child Custody Litigation

§ Top 5 HHS Programs Endangering Women and Children - Billions Of Your Tax Dollars Fuel The Genocide Against Mother's And Her Children

§ U.S. FAMILY COURTS SACRIFICING MOTHERS & CHILDREN all the usual suspects; Guardian ad Litem’s, Psychologists, Case Managers, Custody Evaluators, Access Visitation Supervisors, Parenting Coordinators, and *Therapeutic Jurisprudence

§ Endless $tupidity: Domestic Violence Victim Advocacy For Supervised Visitation Centers

§ U. S. Department of Justice v. Custody Court System

§ WHEN BATTERED WOMEN LOSE CUSTODY: Dangerous Parents or Systems Failure?

§ Dear Custody Court Judge: EXTREME CUSTODY DECISIONS THAT RISK LIVES

§ PAS as a Religion - Parental Alienation Syndrome

§ What is Fair for Children of Abusive Men?

§ Want To Be A Good Dad? Support Mom And Avoid Father’s Rights Groups

§ Insanity? Nope, it’s Family Court

§ 175 Killer Dads: Fathers who ended their children's lives in situations involving child custody, visitation, and/or child support (USA)

§ Batterer Manipulation and Retaliation; Denial and Complicity In the Family Courts

§ A Cancer Spreading in the Custody Court System

§ Some Concerns About False Allegations of Abuse Are Accurate

§ How Many Children Are Court -Ordered Into Unsupervised Contact With an Abusive Parent After Divorce?

§ Child Custody and Visitation Decisions in Domestic Violence Cases: Legal Trends, Risk Factors, and Safety Concerns

§ Family Court and Fathers’ Rights = A Deadly Combination

§ Mother’s Day Proclamation at the White House 1870 and 2010

§ NIMH - Monkey Brain Scans With and Without Mom

§ Confirmed: Protective Mothers Were Right

§ Justice is biased!! The laws play Russian Roulette with children’s lives

§ 138 Killer Dads: Fathers who ended their children's lives in situations involving child custody, visitation, and/or child support (USA)

§ High Conflict Cases Likely Have History of Domestic Violence

§ Family Law Act Aids Abusive Fathers, Imperils Children

§ Federal Fatherhood Initiatives

§ TANF Fraud Diverts Billions To Dangerous Unfit Fathers. Healthy Families Initiatives, Responsible Fatherhood Initiatives, Access and Visitation Initiatives

§ U. S. Fatherhood Initiatives - Control of Women and Children Under the Guise of "Responsible Married Fatherhood"

§ Attention Judges and Lawmakers: This is the REAL AGENDA of the Father’s Rights Movement

§ Maternal Deprivation Inflicted on Battered Women and Abused Children

§ Senate Judiciary Chairman - Response to Proposed Changes to Child Custody Law

§ Hearing to Review Responsible Fatherhood Programs

§ The National Fatherhood Initiative: Supporting a Misogynistic Agenda

§ Family / Criminal Law and Research

§ Southern Poverty Law Center on the Fathers' Rights Movement A Known HATE Gruop

§ "Just Say Good-Bye" New Study -- Fathers Kill Children For Revenge On Their Mothers When The Women Leave Them

§ One More Battleground: Domestic Violence, Child Custody, and the Batterers’ Relentless Pursuit of their Victims Through the Courts

§ Mothers On Trial: The Battle for Children and Custody. Motherhood Under Siege

§ ABUSIVE FATHERS ARE MORE LIKELY TO SEEK SOLE CUSTODY IN CHILD CUSTODY BATTLES

§ Coercive Control: How Men Entrap Women in Personal Life

§ Whores Of The Court and the Rape of American Justice

§ Domestic Violence, Abuse, and Child Custody

§ VAWA, Parental Alienation Syndrome, Fathers Rights

VAWA - Title II - The Entire MISSING Section of the VAWA Identifying Use of PAS Legal Strategies as Violence Against Women Which Endangers Children

Will new rules help N.J. divorce debate? (Only If Mothers Are Allowed To Leave w Her Children)

NJ.com : Will new rules help N.J. divorce debate?

Will new rules help N.J. divorce debate? (Only If Mothers Are Allowed To Leave w Her Children)

Documentary targets family courts and custody evaluators. "No Way Out But One@

Documentary targets family courts and custody evaluators. "No Way Out But One"

http://forensicpsychologist.blogspot.com/2012/12/documentary-targets-family-courts-and.html?m=1 Documentary targets family courts and custody evaluators

'If batterers presented as batterers, nobody would date them or marry them'

 

Domestic violence: Damas case shows how beloved friend can become ...
Naples Daily News - Naples,FL,USA
“If batterers presented as batterers, nobody would date them or marry them,” Oberhaus ... including figuring out who would get custody if there are kids and ...

• By ELYSA BATISTA
• Posted September 26, 2009 at 8:58 p.m.

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NAPLES — It’s a very slow process.

That’s how Melissa Dias described how a woman goes from partner to domestic violence victim.

The process answers the question many Southwest Floridians asked as the news of the death of Guerline Damas and her five children spread and the family’s history of domestic violence came to light.

Mesac Damas, 33, is accused of recently killing his wife, Guerline Dieu Damas, 32, and their children Meshach “Zack” Damas, 9; Maven, 6; Marven, 5; Megan, 3, and Morgan, 19 months, by slitting their throats and stabbing them. Court records show there was prior abuse in the home.

So why did she stay?

The truth, experts and advocates agree, is not as simple as picking up your bags and walking out.

Women don’t go into relationships thinking they are going to be abused, said Linda Oberhaus, executive director of the Shelter for Abused Women and Children in Collier County.

“If batterers presented as batterers, nobody would date them or marry them,” Oberhaus said.

Both Dias and Oberhaus said that it’s only once trust is established -- between the couple -- that abusers begin to show signs of possible domestic violence.

“I think that’s important,” Oberhaus said. “If he abused her on the first date, she would not have dated him.”

With many victims of domestic violence, Dias said, they saw the first sign of abuse but didn’t recognize what it meant.

“They realize something is wrong but they don’t know what it is,” Dias said.

Dias is a member of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and has been affiliated for seven years with the Naples shelter. She now writes a blog about domestic violence.

Verbal abuse is usually the first step an aggressor takes against the victim, Oberhaus said.

“It happens so frequently, that they are really reduced to nothing,” Oberhaus said of the emotional abuse. “It’s almost like brainwashing.”

Simple attacks like “You’re dumb” or “You’re fat” to “Nobody will love you” and “You can’t make it without me” take an immense toll on a victim.

Systematic isolation usually follows.

“A stereotypical abuser won’t want her to have friends,” Dias said. “There is jealousy.”

Women are kept isolated even from family members, so if the woman interacts with them they would still be distant and quick to sever relations if the abuser demanded it.

“A woman slowly starts to lose her self-esteem and confidence,” she said. “Eventually physical abuse happens.”

It’s about power and control.

“Batterers choose who, when and where they batter,” Oberhaus said.

And to those who say, “Batterers can’t control themselves,” Oberhaus said that’s just not true.

“They are battering behind closed doors,” she said. “You don’t see a husband battering his wife out in public. He batters her privately. In a gut level, they know this is not OK … that this is not acceptable.”

Abuse has a significant psychological impact on a victim.

According to Oberhaus, research shows that as many 60 percent of battered women also reported depression.

In addition, battered women are at greater risk of suicide and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Even so, many victims marry their abusers, Dias said.

“You end up really feeling like you’re stuck in a situation,” Dias said. “You’ve married someone that is supposed to be with you forever.”

Love is one of the many reasons women stay in abusive relationships and it’s the hardest thing for many people to understand, Oberhaus said.

“You can’t leave out the fact that they probably do love their partner,” Oberhaus said.

Between having children in common and a long history, many women also believe that they can change the man.

And most don’t even acknowledge they’re being abused.

Because the abuser is always blaming the other person as the one at fault, Dias said, it creeps into a woman’s psyche.

“And eventually you believe it,” she said.

Domestic violence victims have to consider several issues before even attempting to reach out for help to leave a bad situation, including figuring out who would get custody if there are kids and determining if they could support their family if they leave.

“They’re afraid for their safety. They’re afraid for their children,” Oberhaus said. “They don’t want to be homeless and they need to have the ability to care for their kids.”

It’s that need to care for the kids that can both inspire or hold back a battered woman’s attempts to leave her abuser.

“In many relationships men are the breadwinners,” Oberhaus said. “They can easily say ‘You don’t have the resources’ and threaten to take the kids away. That is a real Catch-22.”

Kerrin Darkow, who works with the victim help line at the National Center for Victims of Crimes, said what caught her attention in the case of Guerline Damas was that she reached out for help several times.

“We do know that women in these situations try many different avenues to get help,” she said.

And for a victim of domestic violence, wanting to leave and being able to leave are two quite different things.

Fear and the fact the couple had five children between them could have contributed to her hesitance to leave.

“It’s a pipe dream to think that she could leave with her children and be fine,” said Darkow, who added that in many domestic violence cases, abusers use children as bargaining chips to get their victims to do what they want. “Leaving an abuser does not mean you are safe from an abuser.”

The time after a victim finally escapes the abuser is also the most dangerous time for them.

The best thing a friend or family member who realizes someone is in a domestic violence situation can do is call the local domestic violence hot line to create a safety plan, Oberhaus said.

“The reality is that a woman is most likely to be killed at the time that she leaves,” Oberhaus said. “And that’s a fact.”

Dias agreed.

“Men like to control you and scare you,” Dias said. “They will use whatever means to keep control.”

Dias said she found a new beginning when she connected with the Shelter for Abused Women and Children in Naples.

The shelter and others like it, she said, defy the myth that battered women’s shelters are cold, awful places.

“It’s just given me so much confidence -- confidence I never had in my life,” Dias said of the shelter and weekly support group she has attended for nearly seven years. “It’s more like a sisterhood ... It’s been a godsend for me.”

As for people asking, “Why does any woman stay?” Oberhaus said that it’s the wrong question to ask.

“When someone asks, ‘Why did she stay?’ -- that is victim-blaming,” Oberhaus said. “The question should be: ‘Why would a loving father and husband emotionally or physically batter his children or partner?’ ”

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Editor’s note: Monday, the Daily News begins a series of profile stories about the Damas family victims.

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Who will hear your cries? Domestic Violence Sexual Assault

 

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RELATIONSHIP RESPECT CHECKLIST

If you are in a relationship, you must be treated with respect, which means your boyfriend or partner:

• is willing to compromise
• lets you feel comfortable being yourself
• is able to admit to being wrong
• tries to resolve conflict by talking honestly
• respects your feelings, your opinions and your friends
• accepts you saying no to things you don't want to do (like sex)
• accepts you changing your mind
• respects your wishes if you want to end the relationship

 

 

When someone loves you; you feel valued, respected and free to be yourself. You shouldn't be made to feel intimidated or controlled.

Think about your relationship - do you feel respected?

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Living The Nightmare-Why are my children dead?

Living The Nightmare

SUSAN MURPHY MILANO'S JOURNAL

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Amy Leichtenberg quietly approached the casino boat gamblers with fliers, hoping they may have seen her ex-husband, a known gambler. Three weeks earlier, he abducted the couple’s two young sons and by now all other leads had come up snake eyes. Then her phone rang.

An investigator on the case told her to drive to the McLean County Sheriff’s Department to discuss something new in the case.

Leichtenberg excitedly made the two-hour drive to the police station, allowing herself to daydream about her two boys—9-year-old Duncan and 7-year-old Jack—happily greeting her there.

Inside the station, she didn’t see her boys waiting for her. Instead, Beth Kimmerling, the county coroner, introduced herself.

"No!" Leichtenberg screamed, quickly realizing her hopeful daydream turned into her worst nightmare. "No! No! No!"

The coroner couldn’t even get the words out, telling Leichtenberg that Duncan and Jack—the joys of her life—were dead. And her ex-husband was dead, too, taking his own life after killing both his sons.

"Where are my babies?!" Leichtenberg remembers asking frantically through sobs. "Where are my babies?!" The coroner told her the boys’ bodies were with their father’s body in the back of the police station.

"I want my boys as far away from him as possible!" Leichtenberg remembers yelling, punching a desk and nearby concrete walls.

As the coroner left, Leichtenberg dissolved into a chair, crying, screaming and shaking. She felt numb. She felt empty. She felt like joining her sons in heaven. "I want to see my babies," she remembers telling authorities. No, they told her. Not yet. Not now. Not in their condition.
She begged them. They refused.

To read the entire story about Amy Leicchtenberg in the October issue of Chicago Parent click HERE.

Amy Leichtenberg was a guest on the Susan Murphy Milano show to listen to the interview it plays from this site automatically make sure the volume of your computer is turned on. Susan's show willresume again on Wednesday October 7, 2009 at 4:00 PM.

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LABELS: AMY LEICHTENBERG, BROKEN LEGAL SYSTEM, CHICAGO TRIBUNE,CHILD CUSTODY, CNN NEWS, JACK AND DUNCON CONNOLLY, MOTHERS IN COURT, WOMEN IN CRIME INK.

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Video Presenters at the Sixth Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference: Albany NY 2009

Sixth Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference:

http://bmcc6.blip.tv/

 

The Sixth Annual Battered Mother's Custody Conference: "Solutions"

Friday January 9th - Sunday 11th, 2009 Articles about the 2009 conference by professional journalists who were there:

Commentary womensforum.com By Garland WallerJanuary 13, 2009

The start of the New Year always fills me with hope, with plans for change, with determination. But for me, there is also an annual event that overshadows the hoopla and superficial goals. For me, the New Year heralds the Battered Mothers Custody Conference ... full article

This is Really Hard to Believe Opinion By Barry Nolan Thursday, 15 January 2009 09:14This is really hard to believe. I am sitting in a room filled with women who were beaten, and violated in terrible ways. The room is not in Bosnia, or some far flung third-world hell-hole. I am in a function room in a hotel in Albany at the Battered Mothers Custody Conference. ... full article

Presenters Schedule

BMCC VI Announcement and General InformationBrochure and Mail-In RegistrationOnline Registration 2009 Co-SponsorsSilent AuctionSupport the ConferenceAbout the Conference

Organizations and Support Resources

Legal Resources: Articles, Research,
Briefs, Case Law

Contribute a Panel to the "Children Taken By The Family Courts" Community Quilt

The Conference in PBS' 2005 Documentary

Film: Breaking the Silence, Children's StoriesFilm: Family Court Crisis

Testimonies filmed by Garland Waller at the 2008 conferen

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Just to Hurt Mum...

Just to Hurt Mum...

A father who received shared parenting of the children:
1. Left a 14yo and 9yo alone in the home to see his girlfriend regularly.
2. Threatened to deprive them of their mother, if they told.
3. Took all of the furniture out of the house, leaving them with a few clothes and blankets.
4. Is relying on depression as an excuse of his negligence.
In the article, it states:
"Duty solicitor Mark Dollimore said the man was suffering depression, had not felt able to look after his children, and wanted to co-operate as much as he could."
Then why did he go to the Family Court and battle it out for Shared Parenting?
Just to hurt mum
Why would he leave them in such poor conditions?
Just to hurt mum
If he could not have cared for them, why didn't he just phone the mother?
Oh.. that's right, he is busy hurting the mother.
Fact is that the Family Court has been and is continually used as a weapon against mothers resulting in the harm of children. 
The people who made the shared parenting laws are bitter angry fathers who wanted the legal power to hurt not only their ex wives, but all mothers through the children.  They see them as nothing more than a commodity or a tool to use and spout their hatred for all women. 
Through the same charm and wit they used to lure these women into destructive environments, they used to promote this bill. 
Hence every mother who goes through this system, is forced to endure the suffering this shared parenting mob inflicted. 
The question is not how much suffering every mother can endure knowing that her children are at risk or are being abused and neglected.  The question is now, what is the government going to do about it?  How long do they have to endure this genocide?  How many idiots are they going to listen to before we are heard?
No matter how much you try to bury the truth rather than act, it will not only shine through but be sure there will be justice.

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Parental Alienation Syndrome Misused in Child Custody Cases, say Domestic Violence Advocacy Groups

According to NNEDV, DV LEAP, SFV, and NCADV, victims of domestic violence face a surprisingly uphill battle in family court to win custody of and safety for their children. All too often, courts award custody and unsupervised visitation to parents found to have committed domestic abuse. Many courts handling custody cases do not understand the dynamics of domestic violence and fail to properly factor in the impact of abuse when considering the best interests of the child.

 

Leadership Council Issues Statement

Parental Alienation Syndrome Misused in Child Custody Cases, say Domestic Violence Advocacy Groups

The National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV), the Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment and Appeals Project (DV LEAP), Stop Family Violence, and the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, four of the nation's leading domestic violence victim advocacy organizations, call on the media and the courts to rectify the misunderstanding and misuse of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) in custody cases.

"Child custody cases are among the toughest cases courts have to handle. And in custody cases where domestic violence is involved, the judges have an even higher responsibility to ensure that the safety of family members is not dangerously impaired by misleading - and legally unjustifiable - ‘parental alienation syndrome' theories," said Sue Else, president of the National Network to End Domestic Violence.

"Parental Alienation Syndrome" is a claim that has been used to suggest that some parents try to undermine their children's relationship with the other parent, typically the noncustodial parent, by making false statements about that other parent, most often in the form of abuse allegations. In fact, actor Alec Baldwin made that claim about his own child custody case in a recent interview with Diane Sawyer.

"PAS is being used by some abusers as a tactic to demonize parents' attempts to protect their children from abuse, denying victims of domestic violence justice in the courts. The fact that some parents behave badly in ordinary cases is no reason to ignore real abuse when it is presented to the court," also stated Else.

Joan Meier, DV LEAP's Executive Director, said, "PAS was invented to defeat child abuse claims - and it has been remarkably successful in misleading family courts into believing that women who are sincerely trying to protect their children and themselves from abuse, are just seeking to end the children's relationship with their noncustodial father."

According to NNEDV, DV LEAP, SFV, and NCADV, victims of domestic violence face a surprisingly uphill battle in family court to win custody of and safety for their children. All too often, courts award custody and unsupervised visitation to parents found to have committed domestic abuse. Many courts handling custody cases do not understand the dynamics of domestic violence and fail to properly factor in the impact of abuse when considering the best interests of the child.

"The most important factor judges should be weighing in making custody decisions is the safety of the mother and children, and the introduction of PAS overshadows this critical need for safety," said Rita Smith, Executive Director of the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence.

Meier states that research has shown that children become "alienated" from a parent for a variety of valid reasons, most often resulting from the parent's own negative behavior and relationship with that child.

"The proponents of ‘parental alienation syndrome' are purveying invalid junk science is not even legally admissible. PAS has been emphatically rejected by the Presidential Task Force of the American Psychological Association and by the National Council of Juvenile & Family Court Judges. Leading researchers in the field of custody have agreed that PAS has no scientific validity and the only courts to address the issue have found it inadmissible," said Meier.

"With the increased media attention surrounding the release of Alec Baldwin's book, it is important to let the public know that victims of domestic violence are being silenced through the use of ‘parental alienation syndrome.' We cannot afford to consign thousands of children to unsafe custody or visitation with abusive parents because family courts have come to believe that abuse allegations mean nothing more than a campaign of alienation," said Else.

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